Thursday, May 7, 2009

Marriage Season


I attended Faulkner University as an undergraduate and completed my Bachelors in Bible in 1989. While there many joked about April and May being the month the guys on campus began thinking about what their girlfriends were thinking since the Fall . . . . Marriage. As a minister, I perform a few weddings each year and many of them are during the Summer months. As I was thinking about this morning I thought I would share some advice from my 20 years of marriage. (BTW - The picture to the right proves I am the luckiest man on earth.) This is for the men and women who are not married, who want to be married, who recently married, and who are celebrating decades of marriage. The advice is simple. I guarantee that this advice will help you in your marriage. Are you ready? Here it is:

Be the right person! Profound advice this morning. Take a look at 1 Pet 3:1-7,
"Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external--the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear-- but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered."

Although Peter is speaking specifically to wives, much of what he says applies to husbands as well. We each need to focus as much, if not more, time on who we are on the inside as we spend on our outside. Below is a list of ten traits that will make me a better husband, and you a better spouse:
  • Be Unselfish
  • Be Patient
  • Have Sense of Humor
  • Be Trusting
  • Be Forgiving
  • Be Honest
  • Be Adaptable
  • Practice Self-Discipline
  • Be Trust Worthy
  • Be Able to Apologize
God Bless,

Scott

2 comments:

Kelley said...

I have no rights...she has no responsibilities. All the responsibilities are mine...all the rights are hers.

'...without a word...' no whining about my rights and her responsibilities. Just give up my rights and take up her responsibilities. Then, there's nothing to whine/argue about.

The two of you seem to be doing this, Scott.

Great...Scott.

John

John said...

Well, I posted that anyway, though I am obviously not 'Kelly.' Eric's girlfriend had apparently bumped me off Google when they were here a few days ago. I am signed in on Explorer, but it seems not on Mozilla. I am now....

Have a good morning, Scott.

John